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Seeing Beauty In The Journey

embrace the journey

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I’m a small girl with big dreams that sometimes feel unrealistic and pretty far away. When self-doubt and impatience kick in the Lord never fails to remind me who I am in him.

He gently whispers in my anxious heart, “I called you out with a purpose and I knew it before you were even born.” Despite how I feel sometimes, I know deep down that I am capable of anything because God lives in me and with Him, anything is possible. {Luke 18:27}

““I knew you before I formed you in your mother’s womb. Before you were born I set you apart…”
~ Jeremiah‬ ‭1:5‬ 

Are you struggling with contentment? I feel ya, I’m in the same boat but what helps me is to focus on the steps I am taking now. If I only focus on the finish line then I miss out on all the things I am passing. 

Life’s a journey and God knows exactly how he wants us to take it. We are able to learn so much more and help so many more people if we focus on what’s around us, not just what’s ahead.

So finish that race strong but don’t forget to enjoy the view while you’re at it. When finished you will most likely be all sweaty and out of breath but as you look back you will be able to see why the journey was so hard and what God did through the almost unbearable circumstances.

~ Lovelle ❤

Adoption and Marriage: Five Things I Have Learned in the Transition


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A little over a year ago my life changed dramatically {in a good way}. I went from an extremely long season of being alone with no one to having amazing parents and a husband and it’s been quite the transition. I have had to learn a lot and I have had to take a step back and really acknowledge what’s important to me.

1.) It’s not about me:
I used to live a life dependent on myself which caused me to just think about what is best for me. Now that I am married, I have realized that one of the best things I can do for my husband is put him first and not expect anything in return. My husband is already amazing at that and this has really helped both of us transition {especially me} because selfless love is biblical and it creates a very happy and loving environment.

2.) I don’t have to simply survive anymore:
I got a phone call a while ago that put my stress level on high. My car had a couple recalls which meant it would need to spend a whole day in the shop. How am I supposed to get to work? If I don’t work I can’t pay the bills. If I can’t pay the bills then I will be homeless, carless, and hungry.

One look at my husband calmed me down. I realized I had switched to survival mode but I wasn’t alone anymore. I used to have to be dependent on my car and I used to have to fix problems myself but now I don’t because I have people that can help me and want to help me. What a relief!

3.) It’s all about the little things:
My mom surprised me with coffee at work on one of the longest and hardest days. It was a simple gesture but it meant the world. It’s little things like family dinners or my husband taking some time to help me clean the house. It reminds me that I have a team of people encouraging me. I may not see it sometimes but they truly believe that I am capable of success.

4.) Family comes first:
Before my husband and parents came into the picture I had a completely full schedule. Over full to be exact… I have learned that above all else, family comes first which means leaving my schedule open so that I can spend time with them. Things change and people will constantly come in and out of my life but my family remains and I need to cherish every moment I have with them.

5.) Normal is just a setting on the washing machine:
Coming from an unstable household really influenced what kind of environment I want.
1. No arguing in front of kids
2. No yelling.
3. We don’t fight, we discuss

The list goes on and on… One day my husband looked at me and said, “Lovelle, some of your expectations are kind of unrealistic.”

It turns out my past had haunted me so much that it caused me to become unrealistic about my expectations. No family is perfect. No home is perfect but that’s why Jesus came. He is full of grace and forgiveness that is abundant.

Our family is full of imperfect people but our God is better than that. As long as we put Him first then we will get through whatever trials come our way. Transitions are a part of life. I will gladly admit that I have a long way to go.

This year has certainly been hard but it is totally worth it. It’s through the trials that I learn and develop. I am so grateful for a patient and loving God who is with me every step of the way. What trials are you facing? What is God teaching you in this season of life?

~ Lovelle ❤

Walking Out Love

great love

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Recently, my husband and I sat down and watched the movie, The Cobbler. The theme of the movie is walking in other people’s shoes. The plot begins with a group of Jewish men in the Cobbler’s shop. They had a problem with a man named Gergerman who was bothering their families and businesses.

They handed the cobbler the shoes of the man because the cobbler had a magic stitching machine that gave him the ability to live the life of the owner of the shoes. He used those shoes to better understand Gergerman’s actions  and prevent him from bothering their families any further. Although I never found out the reason why the mean man did what he did to the Jewish men, it really made me think about others and the importance of choosing love in all circumstances. 

The truth is that every single person is fighting a personal battle and sometimes, choosing joy may be harder than we think. What if every single one of us took a step back and chose to walk in other people’s shoes? What if we tried to be intentional and understand how the person is feeling instead of assuming their actions were only directed towards us and responding in a negative way?

What if we replaced being short with being intentional? Did you know that a simple smile in a hard situation can make a HUGE difference? My grandma always said that it’s not one big thing that will change the world. It’s about all the little things you do that add up.

She is so right! So never be afraid to choose love because it covers a multitude of sins {1 Peter 4:8}.

I love this graphic by Jennifer Ueckert because it is a tangible reminder of the importance of love. Do you love this graphic as much as I do? Well then you are in for a treat. If you hit up Jennifer on her new website studiojru you can find this graphic and many more. If you enter the promo code: newshop then you will even get 20% off your order. 

~ Lovelle ❤

You are Doing Better Then You Think You Are

I think out of all of the characters in the bible, I relate to Peter the most. As much as I hate to admit it, I can be impulsive, obnoxious, and prideful at times lacking any ounce of humility. I find myself trying really hard to follow God, and then I let myself and God down because I mess up and sin.

I Think to myself, “man I have a lot to work on.” and I beat myself up for yet another failure on my part but it is in those moments that I hear my faithful God whisper, “yes you do have a lot of work to do but look at how you were last year.” That thought makes me smile to myself because I realize that I may not be doing so bad after all.


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Next year I will probably find myself going through the same scenario and God will have to remind me of how far I have come yet again but that’s okay. This life will be full of growth. In this imperfect world I will constantly mess up because I am human and I am full of sin but that doesn’t mean I won’t stop trying.

Every moment I have on earth is an opportunity to grow, learn, and praise the Lord who made me new. Each day I get a little better and I believe that  I will continue to grow until the Lord takes me home. Maybe, like me, you feel inadequate.

I want you to know that God is looking at you smiling right now in this very moment. Contrary to what you might believe, you my friend are doing better than you think you are.

~ Lovelle ❤

More Dependence and Less Independence

When my husband and I first got our dog Buford, he was as independent as could be. The neglect he received from his previous owners had put him in survival mode. He wouldn’t really play, and often we would find him in another room.

He didn’t seem at ease or happy, either. In order to get him to stay in the room we were in we would have to bring out his bed because that was his safety net.

We have had Buford a couple months, and boy has he changed! His sadness has turned into a smile and he is a total attention hog. If he doesn’t get enough attention we know because he will be in our face with his cute little doggie grin.

Our dog sees us as his safety net. He knows that as long as he has us he will never be hurt again. He has learned that he can ask us for anything and we will give it to him, even if it means taking a pretty inconvenient  potty break at 3am.

Need Our Creator

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The funny thing is that our loving God works the same way. Imagine how much better things would be if we let God take control of everything in our lives?!? The bible says that you cannot enter the kingdom of heaven unless you are like a little child {Matt. 18:3}

What if we just seek God out to meet all our needs? What if we were like little children {or my dog} and completely dependent on Him as if he were our owners???

You see, The world says that growing up means you are more independent. My father says that growing up means I become more dependent.

This last sunday my pastor made an amazing statement that really cut deep. He said, “our hearts are meant to be ruled but when ruled by things other than God, it leaves room for sin.” 

God isn’t a convenience. He is a necessity but unfortunately this life can get pretty busy which causes us to lose sight of where exactly God is supposed to be in our life. Lately God has put me in a position where I am forced to depend on Him.

He opened my eyes to some things that took precedence and He took them off of my hands. I can control all I want but the end result will get me nowhere good.

Giving up control means letting God have responsibility and saying good-bye to worries.

Is there anything in your life that is currently taking precedence before God? Are you like me, struggling with giving over control? Take heart because God is still there. His arms are open wide. His yoke is easy to bear and his burden is light {Matt 11:30}.

~ Lovelle ❤

Why It’s Okay to Not Have Plans

I have no idea what to do with my life,” she said as she threw up her hands in exasperation. “I need a plan.” I gently patted her back and said, “That’s okay because you have plenty of time.

This girl was only 20 years old and a sophomore in college. She was struggling because she couldn’t decide on what degree to commit to. She worked at a local fast food restaurant and for some odd reason she thought that she should be doing more. Because of this she felt stuck.

I smiled to myself because not to long ago I was in her shoes. Well… to be honest I still am, however, I also know what it’s like to have “plans” and I am learning that sometimes, they aren’t the best.

King Solomon says it best in Proverbs 19:21 in his statement, “You can make many plans, but the Lord’s purpose will prevail.”

When I was a senior in high school my plan was to be a writer but as my freshman year of college came to an end, I ditched those plans and I changed my major to social work.

My new plan was to get the education needed to change the foster care system. Now, at the age of 22 and as a senior in college, my plans changed again because God has called me to speak, write, life coach, and work with people in poverty.

Do you see where I am going here???

My point is throughout the course of our lives our plans WILL CHANGE because our ways are not like the Lord’s. Unlike our creator, we are not all knowing. God may end up calling you to move out of state.

He may ask you to quit your job to pursue something else. He may ask you to give up everything and move to a foreign country to become a missionary.

Just to clarify, in no way are plans bad. They help us be prepared but when plans start to become our crutch then we need to step back because we should be pursuing the Lord before anything.

Direct Your Paths

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If you are in a situation where you are confused and not sure where your life is headed, take heart my dear friend, because your Creator has your life in the palm of His hands. Are you feeling like you are stuck in a rut? Keep on holding on because God’s plans will prevail. Above all, remain malleable because God can’t use us if we aren’t.

~ Lovelle ❤

Living a Memorable Life

Whenever I was a young girl I would step through the doors of  my cozy house and almost immediately, my grandfather would speak the words, “dać mi buzi” {it means give me a kiss in Polish}.

My grandfather was quite the amazing man. Besides providing the best parental love a little 8 year old could ask for,  he also served his country in North Korea and Vietnam. He would tell me stories of his journeys and although he was too humble to say it, his stories described how he selflessly gave his life for his country.


The funny thing about my grandfather, is that he did more than just sacrifice his time and effort for The United States of America. My grandpa sacrificed his life and he saved mine.

When I was 8 it was my grandfather and grandmother that took me out of the horrible foster care system in California. Although both of them should have been retired, they decided to sacrifice their lives to make mine better. I  can tell you right now that THE ONLY reason I was able to get through the abuse that I had to endure is because their example beforehand.

In the four years I had with my grandpa, I saw nothing but selfless service to those around him. When the snow would hit, he would be the first one shoveling not only his driveway, but our neighbors as well. When I would get hurt, he would bandage up my scrapes and bruises, and hold me until I stopped crying.

He attended every event and never failed to cheer me on and I saw the selfless love he had towards my grandma on a regular basis.

Here’s where the sad part comes in… I wish I could say that my grandfather is alive and well. Oh how I would love to sit here and tell you that I am able to “give him a kiss” every time I walk through the doors of what used to be our cozy house but I can’t. 

My grandfather died on February 15, 2004 from a brain tumor caused by radiation that he was exposed to during his service in the Air Force. I watched my grandfather die for six months and let me just say it was one of the the hardest things I have ever had to witness. My grandfather literally sacrificed his life for his country.

We won that war because of people like him. He may have came out of the war alive, but he was actually slowly dying from the radiation. We hear stories of PTSD, lost limbs, and other horrifying things that happen to people because they cared about people they don’t know but decided to sacrifice for our safety anyway.

My grandparents actions, and those of many others taught me a very valuable lesson. Their actions showed me what it means to live a memorable life. It’s loving those around you and being selfless at all times.

That can be done by giving money to a homeless man, providing food for someone in need, helping an older lady walk down the street, it really doesn’t matter what it is. The only thing that matters is that you cared enough to do something for someone other than yourself.

Memorial Day

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Today I want to celebrate the life that my grandfather and so many more people lived on and off the battlefield. I refuse to be sad but instead I choose to be ever so grateful for their courageous sacrifice for me. The least I can do is follow in their footsteps by living a memorable life like they have done.  Happy Memorial Day…

~Lovelle ❤